I used to believe that being a good person—especially a good mom—meant giving everything I had. I thought “do your best” meant pushing myself until there was nothing left to give.
As a child, I sacrificed playtime to win approval from teachers and parents. In high school, I regularly stayed up until 3 a.m. to get my homework “just right.” In college, I gave up friends, sleep, even meals to ace my finals. By grad school, I discovered my limits the hard way, falling into a deep, debilitating depression.
Through it all, I learned a truth every overwhelmed mom needs: you can give too much of yourself. Self-care for moms isn’t selfish—it’s essential.
When I became a mom, self-sacrifice became my badge of honor. I prided myself on coordinating everyone’s chaotic schedules, creating perfect (yet flexible) meal plans, maintaining chore charts, and orchestrating outings like the “perfect zoo trip” with sunscreen, snacks, water bottles, extra maps, and even a stroller rotation that kept everyone happy.
I LOVED systems. Any new strategy, tool, or method that promised efficiency or control was irresistible. I thought if I could master the systems, I could master motherhood itself.
But systems never fix the deeper problem. Between sleepless nights, endless messes, and the invisible weight of trying to hold it all together, I fell. And I fell hard. On the surface, I was “doing everything right,” using mindset tools I’d learned in therapy—but underneath, my health, my joy, and even my connection with my kids were draining away.
It all came to a head in a mental hospital, surrounded by four bare walls, feeling utterly confused and alone. That’s when I realized: thriving in motherhood doesn’t come from doing more—it comes from doing things differently.
I discovered a new kind of effort—one that flows from desire, not pressure. It was radically simple, stunningly effective, and life-changing. This became The Effortless Path, a gentle, practical approach for moms to break free from burnout and reconnect with joy—right where they are, in the life they already have.
I’m so glad you found your way to this space.